March 31, 2015 How can I keep my use of your site confidential?

We hope you’ll share your subscription with your life partner. We have a lot of feedback from members who have done this, and found it to be a great experience. Many people – especially women – once viewing our site, are pleased to see that erotica can be produced with respect and empowerment. But at the same time, we know that some partners are just not accepting of viewing erotica.

Some of our customers want to keep their surfing of our site confidential. There are a number of techniques you can use to do this, depending on the level of privacy required, money available, and technical expertise. Our ideas are listed in rough “easiness” order, easiest first. You can always find out more about these methods by doing Google searches – this is a basic list to give you some ideas of the possibilities.

Warning: many of these methods will not provide confidentiality from children (who tend to know a lot more about computers!) or legal authorities. If viewing our site is not legal in your jurisdiction, you’re on your own! You can read up on the legal standards we meet.  Also, most of these methods work for any adult site or media content, not just ours.

We request you do not make our site available to children of any age, but it is beyond the scope of this FAQ to provide details on how to do this. One good place for help is at http://www.netsmartz.org/InternetSafety.

Pay by cash, instead of credit card

Paying by cash ensures there are no “mysterious” billings to your credit card. However, if you do pay by credit card, your statement will show “GMBILL.COM AMS AW”, or “CCBILL.COM”. More info on our pay-by-mail page.

Do not bookmark our site

Bookmarking our site leaves a clear and obvious link to us from your computer. You could either not bookmark the site at all (make sure you remember our name – you can always google it!), or use a bookmarking service like delicious.com, where you can choose to keep your bookmarks online and private. You remember a password to log in to Delicious, and all your bookmarks are stored there. You can tag them, send them to others, and do lotsa cool stuff – including having your bookmarks with you any time you access the internet, no matter where you are, or whose computer you are using.

Use Chrome web browser, and log in / log out

Recent additions to the excellent Chrome web browser mean that users can log in to the browser, and see all their bookmarks, saved passwords, and so on. When you log out, all the history, bookmarks, cookies, everything “disappears” – securely backed up on Google’s servers, ready for when you next log in to the browser, on any computer.

Clear history

Clearing the “history” when you browse abbywinters.com means the next person who uses the computer cannot see where you have been on the Internet. The browser history can go back many months, and is searchable in most web browsers. Most browsers have a “History” menu, with history options there, or on the web browser’s options page.

If you cannot work it out, do a google search for your browser name and version and “clear history”, like this (note that the version of your browser can affect the instructions):

internet explorer 10 clear history

You can set some browsers to never record your browsing history, or to go
into “stealth mode” (sometimes called “incognito mode”) for particular sites or periods, where no history is recorded. We use and recommend the excellent Chrome web browser, which provides this and many other features.

Don’t save your username and password

Most web browsers, and our web site, offer to remember your username and password, to make it easy for you to log in each time you visit. If you use those tools, you may leave signs of visiting our site. Select “no” when asked by your browser to save your login info.

Delete Cookies

We also provide tools to keep your info each time you visit (review our privacy policy for details on specifics). To remove that from your computer, you must delete abbywinters.com cookies. Cookies help you in a lot of ways, and you will find changes you make on the site – some preferences – will be forgotten if you remove our cookies. However, cookies can also lead a snoop to us. You can set your browser to never accept
cookies from our site. This can be set in the “options” part of your browser, though that will make the site more cumbersome to use.

If you cannot work it out, do a Google search for your browser name and version and “clearing cookies”, like this:

internet explorer 10 clearing cookies

Don’t download, only stream online

If you download and save files to your computer, there will be content on your computer which could easily lead someone to our site – all our images and video have our name on them, for example. You can view our images and video (as streaming, like YouTube) online-only, and make lists and groups of your favourite stuff. That means that you have to be online to view our stuff, and that you may see reduced quality compared to  downloading, but the privacy may be worth it, and the quality-hit is not too bad (depending on the speed of your internet connection).

Create a separate user account on your computer, that only you use

It’s possible to create a separate user account on all modern computers. Your partner logs in on her account, and you log in on yours. The web browser settings will be yours alone (e.g., history, cookies), but any files stored on your computer will still be visible, so some of the methods we describe below should still be used.

This does involve some messing around with computer settings, and is particularly difficult in some operating systems, if you do not know how. Google is your friend.

SHIFT-delete media

If you do download media, after you have watched it out, you can delete it. Deleting, on most computers, puts the media in a “list of things to delete one day” place, and does not actually remove it from your computer. This is useful if you delete something accidentally, and want to get it back – look in your “Recycle bin” or “Trash can” on the desktop of your computer.

However, you can force a complete deletion (bypassing the trash can / recycle bin), by selecting the files, holding down a SHIFT key on your keyboard, then tapping DELETE. Double check by opening the recycle bin, and ensuring the files are not there. If they are, you can select them and tap the DELETE key again, and they will be gone for good.

Note that SHIFT-delete does not make the files impossible to get back – anyone with moderate computer skills (say, a child 12 or older), and an inquisitive mind, will be able to get the files back, if they know they exist. SHIFT-delete protects you from casual browsing of your computer.

If using a Mac, the equivalent is command-shift-delete.

Store downloaded media in a hidden directory

You can store media you download from us in a hidden directory (or, “folder”). Make a new folder somewhere (the less obvious place you store this folder, the safer it is), move media into it, then right click on the folder, select Properties, and check the “hidden” box, then click OK. The folder will disappear – but it’s still there.

To get it back, in Explorer, go to Tools, Folder options, view tab, select “show hidden files and folders”. Anyone can do this, of course, so placing the folder in an out-of-the-way place initially helps. Don’t forget to set this same setting back to “do not show hidden files and folders” when you are done!

Also, don’t forget where you put your special folder – that would be very disappointing!

Store downloaded media in an encrypted partition

There are many programs around that can make an encrypted “partition” of your hard drive. You select the capacity of this partition, and it makes it super-secure (even the CIA would take years to crack it, for example). This is extremely secure, but the presence of the program on your computer may raise questions itself. These programs sometimes have a “stealth mode” to fix this.

There is a minor speed-decrease when using encrypted partitions, but if your computer is reasonably new, this will not be noticeable. The more secure the encryption you use, the bigger the speed decrease.

We recommend TrueCrypt, free and effective. Don’t forget your password – you’ll lose access to your files forever!

View the site on a computer only you use

Buy a brand new computer for your partner, and use your old one “just for tinkering”. Put a password on the BIOS, so only people who know the password can do anything. Lock the computer’s screen, so a password is required before it can be used. Do a google search on “setting BIOS password”.

Download material, store and view it offline

You can download material from our site, then store it offline. This might be on USB sticks – you can get 128Gb ones now, which is a heck of a lot of AW content! – or USB hard drives, which can be 500Gb, run from your USB port, and cost around US$80. Storing this drive somewhere safe is easy and discreet and portable.

Run your whole OS on a USB drive

It’s possible to boot an operating system from a USB flash drive as well. You use this OS for your personal browsing, and everyone else who uses the computer uses the computer’s installed operating system. It can be a fun project (and is very useful if travelling), but requires significant computer skills. Google is your friend!